“What is wrong with you?”

Example 1: »Do you see what I see? You don’t? How come? Look once again, look closer .. still don’t see it? There is something wrong with you!!«

Example 2: »Try this shoe … How come – it doesn’t fit you? Try once again … how come it doesn’t fit you? It fits my leg perfectly .. try once again .. ehh, something is wrong with you…«

Example 3: »You don’t understand math? How come … it is so easy, you just need to think and understand it: Cos 2x – Sin x … still don’t get it? How come you can get good grades at history, but you suck at math? What is wrong with you??«

Example 4: »Do you feel the muscle? Just take it slow! Don’t go too fast … take lighter weights and leave your ego aside! Still don’t feel the muscle? Ehh … something is wrong with you…«

Do you see what the above mentioned examples have in common? How many times have you heard (or even said to someone): »What is wrong with you?«

First of all – there is nothing wrong with your athlete/child/student/client/amateur athlete!

Whose fault is then if your athlete/child/student/client/amateur athlete doesn’t understand what you want?

If there is only one athlete/child/student/client/amateur athlete that doesn’t get what the teacher or coach wants from him, then this is absolutely the teacher’s/coach’s fault. If there is a group of athletes/students/clients that do not understand, then the system is at fault. Most systems work according to the “80%-20% rule”. (It is OK for 80%, but it perfectly fits only 20% of people. In every system you can find some that »go with the system«, no matter how good or bad it is).

The same goes for every sport. The more athletes in the group, the more difficult it is to prepare a »perfect« training program that will fit the whole group and each individual athlete in the group.

Individual work (or at least knowing the key personal characteristics of each athlete) is therefore crucial, no matter if you train someone individually or a small group (up to 3 participants, and it gets difficult when training a group).

How to find out the key personal characteristics of each athlete? How to find out what and if someone »sees«, »feels«, »understands«?

Yes, this is not easy, it takes time and effort and there is no universal answer! However there are some indicators, which you can rely on, like observing the way someone walks, body language and posture, which can give you some guidelines.

What determines »what« and who« we are? I will not go into details with this, nor will I go out of the sport area. I will only focus on what determines what kind of training we will respond best to, what will motivate us, and what will discourage us from training!

… stay tuned!

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